sexless coupleThen rift that occurs between once happy sexual people to become sexless couples is not an easy path to track most of the time. In fact most sexless couples do not quite remember when things started to turn so finding a single event, a single cause of a sexless relationship can be an impossible task.

Instead this sad decline is usually a complex tangle of the struggles of life, age, lack of effort and missed opportunities. However I do feel a little hesitant to summarize sexless marriages as such because every case is a different and has it own nuances that lead to the loss of passion, frustration and even shame that comes from the loss of sexual encounters between two loved ones.

This does not mean we should give up looking for an understanding the causes of this problem however as that is vital to mending a fractured relationship!

What it does mean is that if you are in a sexless relationship and looking for the reasons you will need to delve a lot deeper than the surface to find not only what is behind your partners lack of interest be it hidden resentments, physical problems, psychological issues and others. You must also find the reason BEHIND the reason not only in your partner but also looking inward at yourself.

It takes two to tango as they say and while it is obviously not your fault and you should never blame yourself for a sexless union being introspective completes the jigsaw of its missing pieces and allows you to step back and see everything in all its complexity and without bias.

This is the only way you can then move forward and fix your sexless marriage with the knowledge of how and why at your command.

~ Tony